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How Do We Develop a Unified Spirit With Our Spouse?

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Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

Looking back on twenty years of marriage, life with my husband has been an adventure. Some adventures have been easier than others. Jobs have come and gone, houses on both coasts have bought and sold, children have been raised up, and storms have been weathered.

During one particular season, my husband was offered a job that didn’t give me a feeling of peace. I had strong opinions about what was the right decision thus causing great dissension in our marriage.

Thankfully, he and I were plugged in and sharing life with other couples from our church. During one of our meetings, our leader challenged my husband and me to begin praying together and asking the Lord to unite our hearts and spirit to Him.

At first, praying with my husband felt awkward and uncomfortable because I had been fighting unity in our marriage. Honestly, I had built up a wall that I didn’t want to take down.

But then I began to ask God to “search my heart and test my anxious thoughts” (Psalm 139:23), and to unify my heart's desires with His.

It was then that God revealed my pride and rebellious will. My heart needed to fully submit to the Spirit and to my husband. “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21

I’m not going to tell you that all was well overnight, but I kept praying with my husband together on our knees and confessing our sins. My submission to the Lord and to my husband freed me from the pride that was holding me back.

In the end, my husband took the job. Three months later, he was let go from that job.

This verse is a reminder that “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken,” and neither was my marriage. God had prepared us and our marriage to withstand the storm together, unified in Him.

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Ephesians 4:2-3, Mark 10:6-9

Action Item |

What is keeping you from being unified with your husband? Ask the Lord to show you the walls you have built.

Prayer |

Dear Lord, I know that when I confess my sins, you are faithful and will forgive my sins and purify my heart. Please protect my heart, my marriage, and unify my heart together with Yours. Amen.

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