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After the Wedding: Becoming A Wife

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#love #sowandgather After the wedding becoming the wife Proverbs

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31: 11-12 NIV

He proposed in the spring. It was a complete surprise, but no surprise he asked or planned a grand gesture or that I said yes. But what all did I say yes to? He picked out the perfect ring. Was my yes to the precious stone and metal? I was the last of most of my friends to get married. Was my yes about finally wearing the white dress? I dreamed of an outdoor ceremony in the fall. Was my yes to a beautiful wedding? These things were some of the first details that were addressed after the proposal. Life for the next nine months was about wedding decisions: cake, table toppers, catering, flowers, dresses, guests, invitations, and the list goes on and on. Over that time, I also had a pulling on my heart. I knew my yes was not about the wedding. My yes was to become his wife. A position I have never had, nor did I truly understand the significance.

Besides spending my life with my best friend, what does it look like to be a wife? Furthermore, to be a good wife. It has only been a few short months that we have been married. These verses speak to how I would like to be my husband’s wife. For I said yes to being good, capable, lacking nothing of value for the rest of my life. That sounds overwhelming, but I could not imagine working towards any other standard of how I can show my love. I want nothing more than to add to the life of my husband. And I just love that God has provided such instruction.

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Proverbs 31:10-31

Action Item |

How can you pray for your husband? What can you do to show love to your husband?  Ask God to work through you to bless your marriage.

Prayer |

Dear Heavenly Father – You are love. Thank you for showing your love. Please guide our actions in our relationships that we may build each other up. Heal where there is hurt, and let your love shine through each of us. 

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Do You Seek Wisdom From Christ?

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#sowandgather #proverbs For Wisdom Will enter your herat and knowledge will ebe pleasant to your soul. Proverbs 2:10 #fathersandsons

For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.”  Proverbs 2:10 NIV

The bond between a father and a son is a deep and sometimes troubled relationship. The Bible is full of father/son relationships. Some are great examples for families to follow while others tend to show what not to do.  

The father/son relationship can be difficult, especially when you are both a father and a king. An example of this unique situation is seen between David and Solomon. The Bible does not give us many details about this relationship except to say that Solomon was David’s choice to inherit the kingdom. One important aspect of the father/son relationship is the fact that the son carries on the family name. The success of the family depends in part on the wisdom and knowledge passed from father to son so the son has the opportunity to learn and be successful.   

Solomon’s dad, King David, was a man after God’s own heart. David’s heart got him into trouble when he had an affair with another man’s wife. The woman’s name was Bathsheba and she gave birth to Solomon. David’s heart and sin was passed on to his offspring as Solomon also struggled with women.  

Solomon was a wise man and had riches beyond anyone else in the Bible. The first chapter of the book of Proverbs outlines the purpose for writing the book of Proverbs. Solomon’s primary focus was to gain wisdom. God recognized Solomon as a King who “feared the Lord” and He granted Solomon wisdom and knowledge that surpassed any man that ever lived. Solomon’s hope by gaining wisdom was that he would ultimately gain understanding as to the existence of the world with his ultimate goal being to find contentment and peace in life.  

All throughout the book of Proverbs we note that the word wisdom can become a symbol for Christ. This change would transform the theme of wisdom to the theme of love. Proverbs 2:10 is a great example of this: “For Christ will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.”  

Solomon’s problem was that he tried to use wisdom to understand contentment from the world’s perspective. He should have focused on what God could do to fill the void in his life.  

The legacy we leave our kids is one that often keeps me up at night. When I look at some of the stories in the Bible, I cringe wondering if the mistakes I’ve made in the past will continue to haunt future generations. That is why it is important to impart the knowledge of Christ to our kids and to speak the truth in love. Imparting Godly wisdom is the first step to helping our children build a legacy which is not built on the world's desires but on what God desires for them in this world and beyond.  

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Proverbs 4:11; Proverbs 5:1; Proverbs 21:30; Ecclesiastes 1:18

Action Item |

Look through various verses in Proverbs. Take time to insert the word “Christ” where it talks about wisdom and see if it adds to the meaning of the verse.        

Prayer |

Dear God, please forgive me when I think that my plans and ideas are smarter and wiser than Yours. Help me to be humble and trust in Your plans, not leaning on my own understanding. Allow me to see Your face when making difficult decisions and seek Your wisdom in trials. Thank You for being my rock. AMEN.

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How Do You Measure Up?

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Proverbs 31 – The Wife of Noble Character NIV

Take a deep breath, it’s a new year. A time for new challenges and new experiences and maybe even a new you. The year 2016 is in the rearview mirror and 2017 is now in full throttle. Now is the time to stride boldly into the New Year proclaiming the name of God ahead of any future choices. 

While I’m not one to make a lot of New Year’s resolutions, I do try to pick a few character flaws to work on throughout the year.  Notice I said a few character flaws-- if I tried to work on all of my flaws, I would probably get too bogged down with self-pity and depression. I would never get anything done! 

One of my favorite chapters in the Bible is found in Proverbs, specifically the section entitled The Wife of Noble Character. What I love about the Proverbs 31 wife is found at the beginning. Proverbs 31:10 states “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Even in today’s society this is a meaningful and positive comparison. When I begin to assess those flaws I need to work on, I remind myself that as a child of God, I am worth more than earthly riches.  

So many times throughout my day I feel like I am being pulled in many different directions, and I feel totally overwhelmed. It’s in these moments that I remind myself that God has created me to fulfill my daily duties. God has provided each of us with the resources and experience to accomplish whatever may come our way. The Proverbs 31 wife arises early, works with her hands, prepares food, takes care of her family, is mindful of her budget when shopping,  does not overspend, but invests wisely, working from sun-up to sundown.  

One of the areas I am constantly challenged with is in the area of service. Every year I try to pick an area of focus-- it may be a local shelter, church mission or disadvantaged group. There are so many service organizations that need assistance. Once again, Proverbs 31 addresses this in verse 20, “She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.”  

Sometimes in life we take things too seriously. Consequently, this year one of my focuses is to have fun, laugh more and enjoy life. I love those shirts that say “life is good.” Sometimes I feel that we forget that God created this world for us to enjoy. We need to stop the stress and “laugh at the days to come,” as stated in verse 25. 

My last challenge for this year is to remember and memorize verse 30:  “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” So, how do you measure up? Instead of trying to compare yourself to the Proverbs 31 wife, why not focus on verse 30 and put God first in 2017. 

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2 Timothy 3:17; James 1:4; Proverbs 12:4 

Action Item |

Take time to read Proverbs 31:10-31, instead of focusing on the areas you need to work on, make mental checks next to the areas that you are succeeding in…give yourself a pat on the back.       

Prayer |

Dear God, I am committing myself to put You first each and every day. Thank You for Your love and for Your Word, which helps instruct me in the areas where I need more focus. Help me to develop more Godly character traits. Guide me in the areas where I lack experience. Help me to turn my daily stresses into lighthearted moments. Amen.

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Let’s Make Honey - Sweetening Our Speech

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Are My Words Sweet? Proverbs #sowandgather #love

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 NIV

How would you describe your communication skills, especially your speech? Are your words sassy, loving, kind, aggravating, harsh, pleasant, abusive, good, cruel, or maybe, excessive?  

Throughout my life, my speech has often been described as direct or even blunt. I usually tell others, including my friends and family, exactly what is on my mind and give them my opinion in a very concise, direct way.  I really have no intention of hurting anyone, but the words just fly out and, before I know what happened, I have offended them.  I immediately know that I have said too much. 

Two people arrived in my life to help me solve this directness. When I married my husband, he began to gently inform me of the times I crushed others with my speech. At first I was defensive and I didn’t believe him, but as I started to watch others as I spoke, I knew he was correct. Now he just gives me a quick glance with his blue eyes and I know it is time to close my mouth. 

But, the person who has had the greatest influence over my speech is Jesus. From His love and His words in the Bible, I have learned that my speech needs to be sweet, pleasant and healing. And, when I talk, the words should be wise and careful. I should be “quick to listen and slow to speak.” James 1:19. Sometimes it is best to choose silence, just as Jesus modeled when He was tried and convicted before His death. Matthew 26-27  

So, are your words like mine? Try speaking with love and kindness as Jesus did and let’s make some honey! 

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Proverbs 25:11; Proverbs 13:3; Proverbs 12:18 

Action Item |

Evaluate your speech. 

Prayer |

Hello Jesus, Thank you, I am able to communicate with You and with others. Help my words to always be loving, kind and caring. Amen.  

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Treasure God's Word--Proverbs 27:6

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Treasure God's Word - Proverbs 31:17

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Is it sweet, salty, spicy, cold, hot? Terms you might not consider when you are reading God's word. God calls us to hide, treasure and taste His word. Join the contributors and readers of Sow & Gather in tasting and memorizing God's word this week.

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She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. Proverbs 31:17 NIV


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